NO, WE DID NOT TURN OUT WELL

I keep hearing people say “despite how we were raised, we turned out well.”

No, WE DID NOT turn out well.

We turned out chipped.

If we didn’t, how come we prefer women experiencing domestic violence in marriage to die in it rather than leave?

How come we blame rape survivors instead of jailing the perpetrators?

A society where we can’t respect and apologise to children when we wrong them?

Where men are not programmed to receive help, submit or cry?

Or where they think raising their children is helping their wife?

A society filled with impunity. We can’t obey the traffic light we see but claim to obey the God we have never seen?

A culture that reduced men to money.

Women to marriage?

A culture moistened in oppression.

A little financial increase and we cancel our good friends.

Shame lurks at every corner. We look forward to shaming people. We shame singles. Shame Divorcees. Broke. Fat. Or Slim people. Shame couples without children. Shame people for failing. The list never ends. We are in love with making people feel not good enough.

No, we didn’t turn out unbroken.

We turned out at different stages of brokenness and repair.

To confirm this. Just look at our National report card.

Do we act normal?

The earlier we begin to fix ourselves by taking courses on behavioural change.

The better for the children we are raising. Let’s we erase them too.

I keep hearing people say “despite how we were raised, we turned out well.”

No, WE DID NOT turn out well.

We turned out chipped.

If we didn’t, how come we prefer women experiencing domestic violence in marriage to die in it rather than leave?

How come we blame rape survivors instead of jailing the perpetrators?

A society where we can’t respect and apologise to children when we wrong them?

Where men are not programmed to receive help, submit or cry?

Or where they think raising their children is helping their wife?

A society filled with impunity. We can’t obey the traffic light we see but claim to obey the God we have never seen?

A culture that reduced men to money.

Women to marriage?

A culture moistened in oppression.

A little financial increase and we cancel our good friends.

Shame lurks at every corner. We look forward to shaming people. We shame singles. Shame Divorcees. Broke. Fat. Or Slim people. Shame couples without children. Shame people for failing. The list never ends. We are in love with making people feel not good enough.

No, we didn’t turn out unbroken.

We turned out at different stages of brokenness and repair.

To confirm this. Just look at our National report card.

Do we act normal?

The earlier we begin to fix ourselves by taking courses on behavioural change.

The better for the children we are raising. Let’s we erase them too.